Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Various seasons in life, trials and testings of our faith, can challenge a person's understanding of God's love. Whether I am walking day by day through life when everything is going as "normal" as possible or enjoying times of great blessing, God's love around me is very real. But when trouble comes, as it does for all of us, faith is needed to keep believing in God's love for me. A handful of tragic events have truly rocked my faith. They have shaken me to the core of all that I have believed and known to be true. But praise goes to God who sustained me through those terrible times and showed me His love through scripture and through the still moments that I took to spend in His presence and in His refuge. Without those daily and precious times in the presence of the Lord, my darkest days would have been spent trapped in fear and dread.
Fear is the absence of love, as darkness is the absence of light. Once we understand God's love, all our fears are cast out.
I John 4:18 "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love."
To be "made perfect in love" is to know God's love, to experience and to partake of the love that God already has for you. I John 3:1-3 states that God has lavished His great love upon all of His children.
"To know that love is of God and to enter into the secret place leaning upon the arm of the Beloved--this and only this can cast out fear," wrote A.W. Tozer in The Knowledge of the Holy.
God gives us the right to partake of His love when we become His children through His Son Jesus Christ: John 1:12 "But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God." If you have received Christ, then you are God's child; and if you are God's child, then you can know and partake of God's love.
So then, why do we doubt His great love when we go through various trials? Perhaps doubting is a result of a weakness in our faith. Maybe it is a lack of understanding about the depth of God's love for us and the steadfastness of His love which endures even when our faith is weak. Doubt may also be a result of the presence of unrepentant sin thus drawing every person to make a judgement about Christ Jesus. The will of man is able to prevail through a great trail, but the victory must ultimately be assigned to one: self or God. For every believer, trials are a tool which God uses to train us in righteousness and holiness. We can learn from scripture (James 1:2-4) that God allows us to go through times of trials so that we would be lacking in nothing. God uses suffering as a training ground for godly virtues so that we can live them out as a testimony of His transforming power in us. You can choose to assign the glory to God for His power in the midst of your trial, or you can fight to win the battle on your own (which is idolatry - to rob God of His glory).
How can I know that God loves me when I go through trials? Is it possible that God would put me through more and more training (trails) because He is not pleased with me?
We can know that God loves us, especially when going through a trial because the scripture assures us of this very fact. Hebrews 12:5-11 reminds all believers that we are loved as sons and daughters and are being trained up by our Father who desires us to bear the fruit of righteousness in our lives. Moreover, Christ gave us the living example of His love for us in the event of Lazarus' death. This account recorded in John 11:1-44 tells us that Lazarus had not yet passed away when Jesus was told of his illness. "Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was.(vs 5-6)" WHAT! Did the scripture really just say that? Jesus loved them . . . so, he stayed longer? So that Lazarus would die? Yes, the scripture most certainly states that we are called to suffer just as Christ suffered so that we may be glorified with Christ (Romans 8:17) Jesus used the death of Lazarus to bring great glory to God, widening the gap between those who would not hear the voice of the Son of God and those who would believe in Him. The blessing of life which was returned to Lazarus soon became a point of suffering for him and all who followed Christ. The chief priests sought to kill Lazarus for causing a great crowd of people to turn to Christianity (John 12:9-11)
We can know the love of Christ because He lives in all who believe in His name. His Spirit testifies of this truth to our spirits (Rom 8:16, Eph 3:16-19) and He will continue to reveal the immeasurable riches of his great love to us throughout all of eternity because His love surpasses all knowledge (Eph 2:7).
31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be[i] against us? 32 He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? 33 Who shall bring any charge against God's elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is to condemn? Christ Jesus is the one who died—more than that, who was raised—who is at the right hand of God, who indeed is interceding for us.[j] 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? 36 As it is written,
“For your sake we are being killed all the day long;
we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”
we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.”
37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers,39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.